What you can actually do about wedding day mishaps
Your big day is finally here, and you’re anxiously awaiting to see just how the years, months, weeks, and days of planning will all pull together. In your mind you may be envisioning a problem-free fairytale, but then a small dose of actual reality hits. You see, the trouble with unexpected problems are, well, they are unexpected. You never know what, if anything, will go wrong, but you can always be prepared. In the event that you have rain on your wedding day is merely one minor example of a wedding day mishap. Getting married while making sure that your special day actually goes off without a hitch doesn’t have to be stressful. Read on to find a list of some surprising, yet very common, wedding day complications, and just what you can do to smooth them over!
Weathering the weather
Ok so let’s face it, this is a problem that we can’t do much about. If Mother Nature wants it to rain, you can buy umbrellas in bulk and hand them out like candy. Surprisingly, umbrellas make for fun wedding photo props! If Mother Nature wants it to be insanely hot and humid, instruct everyone on how to fold up those fancy wedding programs to use as a fan. Ultimately, if Mother Nature decides to not cooperate, well then let’s just hope you had a Plan B.
There are a few weather-related tips when it comes to planning either a beach wedding. Specifically an outdoor wedding in general.
Some vendors offer wedding insurance. And if your special day is going to be outdoors and/or on the beach, this might be something worth considering. Companies that offer wedding insurance usually charge around $500, and most policies will cover up to about $50,000.
Having a Plan B is just as important. If your wedding is going to be held outdoors – or on the beach, be sure to check with your location vendor. Some offer an indoor space in the event of weather related issues. Amidst all of the planning and preparing, what’s meant to be will be. Take comfort in an old, traditional Hindu belief: “Rain on your wedding day is good luck because it signifies that your marriage will last. As you know, a knot that becomes wet is extremely hard to untie. Therefore when you “tie the knot” on a rainy day, your marriage is just as hard to unravel!”
When cold feet and jitters actually become a symptom of the flu
What happens if the bride, groom, or a wedding party attendant gets sick on the day of your wedding? This is a very tough dilemma that can happen to anyone. Thankfully, if someone comes down with a minor cold or flu, there are a plethora of over-the-counter medications that can suppress most symptoms for hours on end. Having an emergency kit on hand can be a life saver. Some helpful items that should be kept in your emergency bag are as follows: aspirin, ibuprofen, antacid tablets, pepto bismol, dramamine, various topical creams, a small first aid kit and personal products. And don’t forget an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Make sure you’re getting plenty of rest, watching what you eat, and that you’re drinking plenty of water leading up to your wedding day.
Wedding dress damage
You have managed to keep your most prized possession (yes, your wedding dress!) safe from stains, rips, and tears for the last few months, but now, the inevitable time has come to reveal it to your groom, and every other guest attending your event. This means you will be opening the door to accidental damages; of which is a very common occurrence. But thankfully, most of the time a small stain or even a tear is fixable.
The first step is to take a deep breath before reacting. The worst thing you can do is to pour water on a satin wedding gown, or start scrubbing at a delicate piece of silk. There is likely someone in your presence that has a little bit of skill or experience with this, so relax, and send your maid of honor out on a search. Smaller damages to your dress can very easily be fixed- consider pinning up a piece of loose dress trim, or even cover that stain with an accessory! Whether you are walking down the aisle or making your rounds after dinner, rest assured that no one will really notice the dress slip up, only you will have that memory that will later be laughed at for many years to come.
Sticky speeches and touchy toasts
When a bridesmaid or groomsman gives an inappropriate wedding speech about the bride or groom with a microphone in hand, that can leave for a very awkward and embarrassing moment. A very helpful tip- on the wedding day, it’s typical to have the host (usually a DJ) give a welcome toast, along with the best man and maid of honor. Have the DJ give them a time limit- sticking to five minutes or less will usually only give the speaker enough time to sum up a quick yet meaningful love story about the bride and groom, and will leave little time to mention those uncomfortable childhood times that you’d rather not relive again.
Planning ahead with this situation might be your best bet. Discuss with your maid of honor and best man what your expectations are. Thus you hope they will respect your wishes. And if worst comes to worst, make sure the person that is giving the toast is seated close enough to the DJ, so that they can quickly grab the mic!
Guests (including children) that didn’t make the guest list
What if a guest brought a ‘plus one’ without notifying you? Your first gut reaction might be to have them escorted out. But as long as you are comfortable with them being there, you can quickly figure out a way to make certain that they will have a seat at a table and accommodate them in the best way possible. Have someone speak to the vendor staff about setting up an extra chair and /or an extra plate. Don’t let this stress you out, there is always a little wiggle room!
Do your best to accommodate people who happen to show up at your wedding with their children that weren’t invited. Meanwhile doing so without disrupting your event as best as possible. Before the ceremony or reception begins, ask your wedding coordinator, vendor staff, or friend to help out. Seat the children, and parents of course, near the back of the room, just in case their child begins to make noise. That will give them a much more welcome feeling rather than asking them to leave altogether. At the reception, throw out a few extra chairs/high chairs/booster seats. Problem solved, and everyone can still enjoy the evening.
Knowing is solving
Arming yourself with knowledge ahead of time may just save on the setbacks too. If you are planning a beach wedding, be sure to consult a tide chart. The last thing you want to have to worry about is the water’s edge becoming part of the ceremony.
It sounds silly, but just remember this. This sun rises in the east and sets in the west. Why is that important? Well, if you want a sunset wedding, you’ll want to do that on the soundside, not on the beach.
Parking? Will there be enough spots for my guests? There may not be. Consider using a service like the OBX Wedding Trolley to transport your guests safely to your ceremony.
Traffic on the Outer Banks, especially during the summer months, can be very challenging. Be sure to build in a little flex time in your schedule. For fear that certain individuals can’t make the left turn out onto the Bypass.
Wedding day dilemmas are sure to happen. You may think that these struggles have only happened to you. In any case, take comfort in knowing that most brides face these very same problems. Some things are within our control, and some things are outside of our control. Overall, it is how you will deal with those struggles that will define your wedding day. Give a little and take a little, and remember- your wedding day is the happiest day of your life- no matter what curveballs you may have dodged along the way! ♥
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