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Bridal Party Advice For Brides 2020

Long before women were quoting the movie Bridesmaids and way before Pinterest worthy gowns, bridesmaids were a big part of weddings. With some debate, the history of bridesmaids can be dated back to Biblical times. Then, some brides were known to have their own maids of the servant variety. Some people argue that bridesmaids actually began in ancient times. They would dress identically to the bride in order to confuse jealous suitors who wanted to kidnap the bride. One thing is for certain though; the role of a bridesmaid is constantly changing.

How to Choose Bridesmaids

Firstly, a couple’s engagement is announced. Next is who will form their wedding party. Deciding who will stand next to you on the most important day of your life is a major decision. Therefore, taking your time in choosing bridesmaids is so important. This is a good time to consider the longevity, value, and history of your relationship. After all, your bridal party is going to be in your wedding photos so you want to make sure that these friendships can withstand the test of time. Because of this, many couples are opting for smaller wedding parties.

Trends we love: Having one attendant for the bride and one for the groom. The smaller, more intimate wedding parties allow you to have one person with you, as you get ready. They are there to help with any issues or decisions that may arise on the big day and calm your nerves should you be feeling nervous before you walk down the aisle and say your vows. Having a smaller wedding party can give you more time and energy to focus on the big day!

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All Bridal Parties Are Different

Brides today are putting some of their own unique twists into their weddings and their bridal parties. You can have either a large group of close relatives and girlfriends. Contrarily, you have just one cherished friend stand by your side. The possibilities for a bridal party are endless. Some weddings can feel a bit cookie cutter. There are so many ways to make your wedding stand out. Until recently, bridesmaids were expected to wear identical dresses that were selected by the bride, but by letting your bridal party have a little bit of personality can really set your wedding apart.

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Trends we love: Allowing your bridesmaids to wear an outfit that makes them feel comfortable and shows off their unique style is one of our favorite trends for bridesmaids this year. From long gowns to cocktail dresses, jumpers or pant suits, your bridesmaids are going to love having a little bit of say-so in their wedding day attire. If you don’t want to give them free reign to pick their dress or outfit, perhaps you can select a few that you love and each bridesmaid can choose from those options. Some simple guidelines on color can be helpful to keep every outfit in line with your desired color scheme.

The Cost of Being a Bridesmaid

No one can put a price on friendship, especially a long-lasting friendship, but being a bridesmaid often comes with a high price tag. Be sure to be upfront with your potential bridesmaids about the costs that they can be expected to cover. If you want them to purchase their own dress, shoes, and provide hair and makeup services, then you need to tell them before they make the commitment to stand by your side. It may be helpful for your bridal party to get together to plan out a budget. Of course, there are plenty of pre-wedding events that are sure to cost a pretty penny too.

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Bachelorette parties have become less of a one big night of fun and now tend to be weeklong destination parties. There are many factors to consider when you plan a destination bachelorette party. You may be asking your friends to take time off from work, pay their own way, or even leave behind families for a weeklong party. Other costs to consider are bridal showers and pre-wedding luncheons. If you’re expecting these things from your bridesmaids, be sure to communicate clearly with everyone. Certainly to plan something that works for all of the bride’s best girls! This will eliminate any stress or surprises closer to your big day.

Trends we love: Incorporating your bachelorette party into your Outer Banks wedding is a great way to share a destination bachelorette party with your friends without breaking the bank or asking too much of your bridesmaids. State-of-the-art spas, sailing charters, and retail therapy are just a few of the amazing ideas that can get you started on the best bachelorette party ever. OBX style!

Assigning Bridesmaid Roles & Responsibilities

Apart from cost, deciding on the specific roles and expectations of your bridesmaids is always helpful. With the stress of wedding planning you don’t want anything to come between you and a treasured friend. Communication is key! Every bride has a different idea of what her bridesmaids will be responsible for because each family is different. Some brides have parents, sisters, and family members who will swoop in to plan a bridal shower and take care of all of the major details. Often times, a couple will take care of planning the wedding and doing a food and cake tasting on their own. Other brides may assign aspects of wedding planning as certain bridesmaid duties. Bridesmaid responsibilities from visiting venues, to dress shopping, creating favors, addressing and mailing invitations, and being a part of the planning process. Sharing wedding responsibilities is probably a good idea if it comes to looking for help with parts of the overall wedding planning.

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What to Give My Bridesmaids / Bridesmaids Gifts

You will want to offer a token of your thanks. Of course, since this bridesmaid is going to be there for you on the biggest day of your life. A gift from the bride to each of her bridesmaids has become customary. Oftentimes these gifts are additions to jewelry that you would like your bridesmaids to wear during the wedding. You can even customize these gifts specifically to the Outer Banks by providing a new beach towel and flip-flops. The possibilities are endless but showing a bit of thanks to your beloved friend is always in good taste.

Please either take this bridesmaid advice, or leave it. Although, one thing is for sure. The people that you choose to stand by your side on your wedding day are irreplaceable. They often feel much more like family than just friends. Whether you have a dozen bridesmaids or just one, you will have your support system by your side. Overall, it doesn’t matter what they wear or how much time they have to dedicate to your wedding day preparation. The truest honor is that you have found the people who also want to stand next to you as you marry your best friend.

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